You understand, among the other risk indications it’s a destructive one, where one tends to be more in the role of raising issues, pushing things; we gotta deal with this and the other shuts down, pulls away, pulls back that we talk about is withdraw and avoidance and this is really not a fun dance for couples and.

Jim: You don’t drop fast on function. Scott: We don’t drop fast on function. We are able to go up fast; we come down slow and once we’re up here, that ladder’s really unstable. You realize, way up at the very top is a complete lot less stable than nearby the base. Plus some people … Continued